On the other hand, with no strict guidelines imposed by law, you may be able to work out your own informal arrangement. “The plus side for those people working for smaller employers is that there may be more room to negotiate,” says Jennifer Kosko, who took 10 weeks’ maternity leave from her job as vice president of meetings and trade shows for an association. She then worked full-time until her twins were 3 years old and now does part-time consulting.
Case in point: Many mothers of twins find the gawking and comments that people can make insensitive and inappropriate. “With multiples, you feel you’re on display, and it’s nice to come home to this group and not feel that way,” says Kosko. “Here, when you’ve got one baby on one knee and you’re burping the other, nobody bats an eye.”
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Track your babies’ schedules. One of the most helpful baby gifts Elsbeth Russell received was a spiral notebook with pages separated into columns that allowed the family and caregivers to track the Russells’ twin boys’ feeding and sleeping schedules and diaper changes. “When you’re sleep deprived and getting to know two babies, it’s hard to keep track of which baby did what,” says the Gainesville, Florida, mom. This type of chart also allows mom to know each baby’s schedule when someone else is doing the caregiving.
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Geri Martin Wilson of Palo Alto, California, breastfed her twins until they were 2 years old. She used a twin nursing pillow with each twin’s head cradled in a hand. If you can make it work, simultaneous nursing saves time and has other benefits as well. “Nursing at the same time helped put them on the same nap schedule,” says Martin Wilson. “If one woke up at night, 95 percent of the time we woke the other up and I nursed him or her, too.”
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Do double-duty with the diaper bag. A fully stocked diaper bag is a must. Make sure you have at least two sets of clean clothes for your babies (a clean shirt for you is a good idea, too), plenty of diapers and wipes, and a plastic bag to stash soiled clothing. “I go through the diaper bag twice before leaving home to make sure I’ve got everything,” says Meghann Buckles, of Irmo, South Carolina, mom to 7-month-old twin girls. Buckles also keeps a spare bag in her car with extra supplies. As soon as you get home, remove soiled items and repack the bag with clean clothes, diapers, and wipes. You’ll always be ready for the next outing.
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If no club is near you, another option is communicating via email or Facebook group – especially when you have a question in the middle of the night. “It’s fantastic to have contact with other parents of multiples, as some baby advice doesn’t always prove useful when you are coping with more than one,” Emma says. “It’s nice to know that someone out there has been through it all, too.”
You may also be surprised to learn that when you’re pregnant with twins or more, your employer isn’t obligated by law to allow you any more time off than if you were having one baby. Many mothers of multiples, however, find getting back into the swing of things more difficult.
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But for Teresa Edgington of Cincinnati, things weren’t so simple. In the beginning, she tried nursing both twins, but her boy, Christian, didn’t nurse well and required lots of bottles, so Edgington switched her strategy. “It became easier to nurse one and bottle-feed the other,” she says. “Emi is predominantly breastfed, and Christian nurses for comfort.”
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Emma says she coped by relaxing her standards. “You have to come to terms with the fact that there are not enough hours in the day to keep the house spanking clean,” she says. “And if you just concentrate on the babies for at least the first three months, you will be a lot less stressed about everything.” She was lucky enough to have a mother who dropped in every day for weeks and did the dishes – then disappeared. “That type of help you really need.”
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As for maternity leave, the 1993 Family and Medical Leave Act provides up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave after you give birth. Companies with fewer than 50 employees – the vast majority – are exempt, although they may have their own policies. If you work in a three-person office and you’re indispensable, you may find it tough to take time off.
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Parents of multiples will empathize with your situation like no one else can. Kosko, the part-time consultant, began attending Multiples of America club meetings when she was pregnant. “There are a lot of things that can make your life easier, and it’s worth investigating, even if you’re not a joiner,” she says.
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Be a chief bottle preparer. When Tamara Pier’s twin son and daughter were infants, she prepared a day’s worth of bottles every morning (some moms prefer to do this in the evenings, when their babies are down for the night). “I used a washable marker to write each baby’s initials and the feeding time on each bottle,” says the Swartz Creek, Michigan, mom. Pier then lined the bottles in chronological order in the fridge. “This made it easy to grab the next bottle for the next feeding.”
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“My local twins club morning coffee has been fantastic for establishing contact with other mothers of multiples,” says Emma. “I started going when I was pregnant to get a feel for it – a bit scary at first, but it is better than being thrown in the deep end,” she says.
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The short answer is as much as you can. But the deciding factors will still come down to what works best for you and your family, your babies’ health, how you feel physically and emotionally, your financial circumstances, and your workplace environment.
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Make things easy to find. Jenny Turkelson, of Evansville, Wisconsin, uses an over-the-door shoe holder with clear pockets to organize her 7-month-old twin daughters’ socks, shoes, and items like hair bands, soft books, and toys.
Hold back on the shopping. It’s hard not to go crazy when registering for baby stuff or preparing for the arrival of your two little ones. “But twins can share a lot of baby gear, so parents don’t necessarily need to buy two of everything,” says Joe Rawlinson, author of A Dad’s Guide to Twins and father of 4-year-old twin girls. Twins are used to being together, and many parents find that the two babies sleep better when nestled in one crib. Separate them when they start rolling or moving more. Because high chairs can be space hogs, consider using feeding chairs (sometimes called booster seats) that strap onto your kitchen chairs or fasten to the table. Most parents of multiples find that they can get by just fine with one swing, one ExerSaucer, and one infant bathtub. Of course, every parent of multiples needs an endless supply of diapers, patience, and love.
If you feel you need more time off, consider discussing the matter with your company’s human resources department, or talk to your boss about taking an extended leave or making part-time or work-from-home arrangements. If you can afford it, you may also decide to take a break from your career. Remember, whatever you decide will work for you is the right answer to this question.
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With twins, these needs double, and more. You’ll require much more support than just your partner can give, so to avoid blaming each other – or yourself – when stress starts to build, plan ahead and line up additional help for after the birth. Find out whether your insurance plan will pay for a home visit from a nurse, or consider hiring a doula to help during the first days or weeks at home. (Doulas are best known as labor and delivery help, but many are willing to work as nurses – even night nurses! – for newborns.)