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Regardless of how we joined the single parent of twins club, single parents share the stresses and frustrations of trying to provide for their children with varying degrees of support. In my case, my parents are no longer with me, and my brother lives an hour and a half away (soon to be much more), so I have had to navigate most of this parenting gig alone. On the positive side, it allows me to make the decisions that I feel are best for my family, without worrying about any interference. The independent side of me loves that.

The rate of twin births has risen 79 percent over the last three decades, and continues to increase. A mom of fraternal twins and a national guru on having two, Natalie Diaz launched Twiniversity, a supportive website with advice from the twin-trenches.

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What to Do When You’re Having Two is the definitive how-to guide to parenting twins, covering how to make a Birth Plan checklist, sticking to one sleep schedule, managing double-duty breastfeeding, stocking up on all the necessary gear, building one-on-one relationships with each child, and more.

Me personally? I’ve learned the art of extreme couponing. It’s not easy, but you can really stretch the food and household item budget significantly. I learned from YouTube videos and Instagram. You can, too.

Try as we all might at times, no one can be everything to everybody all the time. You can’t pour from an empty cup.

As any single parent of twins knows, creative problem solving is a must. One of my most creative solutions since having my girls was finding a way to be a stay-at-home mom, despite being single. I had the benefit of some money that I received after my parents passed away, and I chose to sell my apartment and rent elsewhere, so that we could live off that, while I tutored online part-time. I’m grateful to have had the opportunity to be with my girls for these early years, but I know that it is time, both financially, and developmentally, for them to go into a pre-school program and for me to go back to work full-time. This is my current biggest stress, as finding a job has proven difficult so far, and I often worry about my ability to continue to support my girls.

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Also useful? Strollers. See that cute little singleton walking through the store, holding daddy’s hand while mommy picks out produce? Yeah. Not happening here. No way. Sorry kids. Mommy will make this quick, but your little tushies are staying in that stroller where they belong. This one breaks my heart a little bit, but often it’s the only way. Safety first. Okay, yes. I do think you’ve earned a cookie, my sweethearts. Here you go.

Make no mistake. This is not organizational prowess. Far from it, in my case. It’s basic survival. Because, let’s face it: you will forget something crucial. Work smarter, super mom or dad! Keep that stuff stocked and mobile!

For many, becoming a single parent of twins is an unplanned, and often traumatic, event. Most of us picture sharing parenthood with a partner, but it doesn’t always work out that way. Some women bear their children without a present father; others (moms and dads) face the dissolution of their relationships or the death of a partner; still others, like myself, become single mothers or fathers by choice, using sperm and egg donation.

A good friend once told me that I needed to take some “me time” and relax. My eyes rolled so hard, I’d imagine it registered in the Richter Scale. Ain’t no mommy got time for that! I’ll take “me time” when they go off to college! But she was right. This bears repeating: you can’t pour from an empty cup. Perhaps a vacation isn’t in the cards. But even a nice cup of tea and book after the kids go to bed can be restorative. (Or a glass of wine and a Netflix binge! No judgment here!) Whatever you need to do. Do a little something for yourself. Those kids need you. All of you. A happy you.

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What is a mommy (or daddy) to do when outnumbered at all times? When two or more little ones are all but guaranteed to sprint in different directions? Keep them contained! Fenced in playgrounds are the best thing ever. They are the outnumbered parent’s refuge. Run free, little ones! Jump! Climb! Burn off that energy! Mommy can see you both from this bench. And there is no escape! MWAHAHA!

Busy busy busy! So many balls in the air. Bound to drop one. What’s the best way to manage multiple little people’s busy lives (and your own) solo? Keep extra everything… everywhere! My car likely resembles an old timey merchant’s caravan. Might need it? It’s probably in there. Extra diapers, wipes, non-perishable snacks, changes of clothing (for kids and mommy!), spare sets of keys, kitchen sink? Yup. Got ’em all! Mommy’s got this!

Stephanie Turner is a first time mommy to twin baby boys. Prior to this, she worked for many years in the mental health field. In the spare time that she likes to pretend she has, Stephanie enjoys cooking, gardening, hiking, and starting projects that she’ll never finish. Her current hobbies include breaking up baby fights, wandering aimlessly around Target, and attempting to write while a baby (or two) uses her as a sofa. She lives in New England with adorable sons and attention seeking cat. She aspires to one day take a nap. Follow her on Facebook at Behind the Binkies.

When it came to support within the NICU, I faced a somewhat unique challenge. Our NICU provided bracelets for the Mom and Dad to have 24/7 access. Parents could then name up to four people who were allowed to visit during normal visiting hours. Typically, these four people would be the grandparents. I spoke to NICU chief and informed him that there was no dad, or any grandparents, so I wanted to give my brother the other set of bracelets, and select four other people for what I called my “velvet rope list.” He gave it some thought and ultimately agreed, so I selected my father’s cousins, who had been there the night the girls were born (and serve as godparents to one of them), a close friend (OK, OK, my high school prom date!) who lived near me, and who I knew would give me rides and general support if I needed it, and finally my close childhood friend who threw my shower, and who agreed to be in the delivery room with me (she also serves as godmother to the second twin). The staff admitted that it was the most unusual NICU visitor list that they had ever seen. Even a few months later, when both girls came down with RSV, my friends rallied again, caring for one at home, while I stayed with the other in the hospital (until the second was admitted as well).

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Kids are expensive. No doubt about that. So what to do if you’re on your own? Maybe you don’t even get child support? Buy things in bulk or wholesale. Have it shipped straight to your house, and save the gas money. Those paid memberships usually are well worth it.

However, it was after my girls’ birth that the true scope of my friends’ commitment became clear. Like many twins, my girls were premature, and spent six weeks in the NICU. For the first two weeks, I was unable to drive, so I needed rides to and from the hospital. Within an hour of posting a call for help on Facebook, I had rides lined up for the whole two weeks, from friends, cousins, former students, and even old skating friends that I hadn’t seen in person in years.

My saving grace through it all comes in the forms of friendships. From the very start, friends, both close and casual, came through for me in too many ways to count. When I was choosing a sperm donor, I decided to involve a few close friends in the selection process. So I hosted a cocktail party at which we set the donors from two banks in competition against each other, using a bracketology system. I called it “Sperm Madness.” It was a fun night, and I was intrigued to see that my friends narrowed down the donors to the two top contenders that I had secretly pre-selected.

Twins? Wow! How do you do it? Single parent? Wow! How do you do it? Single parent of twins? Chirp chirp… awkward subject change. It’s always the same. The look of awe and pity, all rolled into one! I wonder to myself what would happen if I were to answer this honestly? So, how DO we do it? Here’s a sneak peek.

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Naturally, I do need to rely on myself for most things when it comes to raising my girls, but I don’t really mind that. In fact, it’s often a point of pride for me to be able say that I have done most of it alone. However, in the two and a half years since their birth, my friends and family have continued to come through for me. From my brother allowing us to stay with him for a while (so that I could save more money to stay home with the girls) to the friend who has spent more time in my dentist’s waiting room, watching my kids, than she has in her own dentist’s office, they have never hesitated to help me out. And can we talk about the friends who have been willing to go on vacation with us? I love to travel, and didn’t want to stop just because I had kids. And while I’ve road-tripped many times solo, flying on a major vacation with the twins was not something that I wanted to do alone at such a young age. Amazingly, I have always found someone to travel with us (some even more than once!) Talk about going above and beyond! And that high school prom date? He lived a mile from me that first year, and proved to be an amazing help. No, really – some nights he stayed up with them until 3AM, so that I could sleep, and then just let himself out and went home for a couple of hours sleep before commuting to work the next day. That’s friendship!

However, not having my parents around, or much close family other than my brother, can make for a lonely experience. So many times I have been desperate to ask my mom’s advice, or even just to ask her what I was like as a baby/toddler, so I can know if my strong-willed daughters are just cosmic paypack! It also means that I almost never get the benefit of free childcare, so I really need to plan my babysitting carefully, and use it sparingly.

Do you have helpful friends and family nearby? (If you do, count your blessings. Some have none at all.) Don’t be too polite to take up offers of help. Even if that means seizing the little moments as they come. Ooh! You’re going to be around for another 10 minutes? Great! I’m going to wash the grease coat from my hair! Keep them alive for me, would you? Thanks! You do what you’ve gotta do. And that’s okay.

As grateful as I am for this help, I also tend to feel a little guilty. First of all, I hate asking for help, and often feel like I have no right to ask for help with something that I chose to do. But just because I chose it, that doesn’t mean that it’s not still hard, and I do need help from time to time. The bigger issue is something that I discussed with a close friend. She spends a lot of time with us, travels with us, and has come through for us in more ways that I can count. One day I told her that I was worried about “friendship equity” with her, and with other friends who have done a lot for my little family. I often feel like I am at the wrong end of the friendship equity scale – always receiving the benefits and not being able to reciprocate like I would want. The truth is that I can rarely repay what my friends have done for us. After all, a good 90% of the time, I still have two toddlers with me. I try to still be a good friend, and I know that my friends are not keeping some sort of tally of what they’ve done for us. But I hope that they know that I am here if they need me, just as they have always been there for me. And I hope that, as my girls grow and become somewhat less dependent on me, I will be more able to step up when called.

Accessible and informative, What to Do When You’re Having Two is the must-have manual for all parents of twins.

These people have been my “village,” as the expression goes, and they have made the journey of single motherhood a little less solitary. I’m about to leave that village though, moving my family from the East Coast to the West Coast, where I know almost no one. Assuming we survive the cross-country drive, we will be starting over in sunny Southern California, where I hope to get a new job and provide a new, exciting life for my girls. It’s scary, but I know in my gut that it is the right choice for my family at this stage. We may not have our village in person out in California, but I know that we will have their virtual support, and my girls will always know the people who have made such a difference in our lives.

Kristen Marée Cleary is a writer and English professor who lives in New York City. She is a single mom to 2-year-old fraternal twin girls and her first-born, a miniature schnauzer. When she finds herself without two children and a dog on her lap, she enjoys Doctor Who marathons, coaching figure skating, and travel. She is an optioned screenwriter and, whenever the madness of raising twins as a single mom actually leaves her time to write about raising twins as a single mom, she blogs at www.spinstermom.com. You can also find her on Twitter and Instagram.

Honestly, most days, I don’t even know. Whether or not we’re single parents by choice, we do it because we have to. We do it for the love of our perfect kids. Is it easy? About as easy as trigonometry! But we have always found a way. And we always will! Take heart, mom or dad. You’re doing great!

Single Mother Newborn Twins