– I promise you, you’re not crazy. It’s not easy. It gets better. Put them up in Boppy pillows and feed both at the same time. It takes time to get used to, but it really helped me! Twins are such a blessing, but it doesn’t come easy. I had guilt too. Ask for help and accept it. It truly takes a village to raise babies. They will be grown before you know it. One feeding at a time. You’ve got this! ∼ LS
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– I struggled myself with feeling any joy in the first 3 months. I’d cry every evening because I knew nighttime was coming and I wouldn’t sleep. It was awful and exhausting. I honestly didn’t understand why people would choose to have more children. People would tell me it gets better and I just tried to trust them. It’s SO hard and you are not alone. I was adamant about a nighttime schedule so they would start sleeping through the night because I needed my sleep. After about 3-4 months it gets so much easier. I completely understand that each day feels like an eternity to get to 4 months. My twins are now 15 months old and getting more enjoyable each day. You got this! ∼ SWL
As far as feeling overwhelmed: I think it’s normal.. I try to make sure the good and the bad days are balanced, once the bad starts outweighing the good I think talking to someone about ppd might help.. All I can say: highs are high and lows are low.. Very low 🙂
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Don’t feel bad for being overwhelmed and miserable. It’s so hard. I think people forget how hard the newborn stage is, and multiply that times two…ugh! How are you supposed to comfort two fussy/inconsolable babies at the same time?. I seriously feel like I have PTSD from how awful it was for a few weeks. I got so little sleep and was so emotionally drained from trying to keep my babies from crying. But it will get better!!
– I prepped all the bottles for the day/night in the morning. They make great sectioned containers that have spouts that you can put the powdered formula in. Everything was ready to just dump in the bottle. Preparation was key for us. Just constantly having everything nearby made it so much easier. I kept a pack n play in the living room and one in the bedroom so they could sleep anywhere. If they are going less than three hours between feedings I might see if you have to increase what they eat. The first 3-6 months are just guesswork and once you get it figured out, they change. ∼ KP
@dkphillymom I have 6 week old b/g twins and a five year old also, so I feel you!!! Schedule is saving my life. Everything is scheduled. If one baby wakes to eat, I will do whatever I have to to wake and feed the other.
Every morning after dropping our kindergartener off, it is ny designated nap time. I feed and change both babies, put them in their swings and take a solid two hour nap. I let them fuss for a bit if they’re not ready to nap because this morning nap IS MY SANITY.
After dinner, I give the babies to dh to feed so I can go tanning and leave the house for 45 minutes (ALSO FOR MY SANITY)! People are shocked how well I get around with newborn twins but I promise you, it’s all about the schedule! Don’t be afraid to let one or both cry to get them on a feeding or bed time schedule.
Good luck mama!! HTH!
– It will get better. You’re exhausted right now. Nothing to feel guilty about. If you’re having symptoms of Postpartum Depression, please say something to your doctor. ∼ CD
– Hang in there. We are at 4 months and only now am I starting to feel like a human being, rather than a high-functioning zombie. Our floors got mopped for the first time tonight since they were born. Let that sink in, 4 months. Moral of that tidbit was to tell you we are all on the struggle bus together. You are not alone and I promise you it will get better. I don’t know how we survived the first 3 months. You just need to do what works for you and your little family. I got us on a schedule as quickly as possible. I still get dirty looks or confused faces but I wouldn’t survive without being on it so I just shrug it off. ∼ EW
– That time in our life was awful! I remember thinking I had Postpartum Depression. I just felt angry all the time. It does get better, I promise! Both my girls had awful reflux and I swore I thought I would never stop being covered in spit up. They eventually get better, they eventually sleep for a bit longer. What worked for us with me pumping was to have my husband get up and get the girls diapers changed, while I got up and got myself hooked up to my pump and bottles in the warmers. By the time both babies were in front of me ready to eat, I was already 10 min into pumping which helped me a lot. Then I would feed both on their Twin Z pillow, which was the best purchase ever. All said and done, I was back to bed in 35 min. You got this momma! ∼ JT
– It gets easier as time goes on. The first year is the worst, especially if you are a first time mom. There’s no learning curve. You become an expert quick! At 3 weeks, the babies are just getting used to the world outside the womb. As they get a little older you’ll find you develop a routine. It gets so much easier! Make sure you ask for help and give yourself a break! ∼ TD
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– Nap every chance you can! Seriously, if the babies are asleep you need to be asleep. I didn’t listen to that and I regret it. Also, let things go, dishes, laundry, showers. Dry shampoo is your friend! All those people that said they would help before you had those babies, don’t hesitate to call them out on their offers. They know how to throw clothes into a washer. Take them up on it. Really, do it! ∼ LO
I did. I was blind with sleep deprivation and overwhelmed. It did get better. I worked to get them on a coordinated schedule so they were eating and sleeping at the same time. They got in tune with it around 8w (4-6w was the worst for us) and has been mostly progress since. It does get easier so hang in there and know that this is very normal!
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My twin girls will be 7 weeks on Wednesday. They were completely spontaneous, never imagined I would have 3 children (I have a 5 yr old), let alone twins. I’m trying to deal with going from 1 child to 3 the best I can, however, I feel like I’m going to have a complete meltdown at times. They are up every 2 to 3 hours all day and night, at different times. With lack of sleep and being around them all day long while I’m on maternity leave and my DH is working, I’m feeling completely overwhelmed and miserable at times. Please tell me I’m not the only one that feels this way and that it will get easier…..
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– Everyone is different, but based on my experience I couldn’t do all night on my own with 2. Are you waking them at the same time to feed? Our bigger baby started sleeping longer so we took a baby each into separate rooms at night to get more sleep. Anytime during the day that they sleep, you need to sleep too. My husband would come home from work and go straight to sleep on the sofa. Then we’d have dinner and literally, go straight to bed. You’ll get through it. Looking back it is just a matter of a few weeks it’s like this but there’s no getting around the fact it is an absolute shocker at the beginning. We started a bedtime routine at 10 weeks. Hang in there it gets easier. ∼ CS
My girls are three weeks now and I have a seven year old I have to say it was worse the first week but I think what made it better is that I try to always give them the same schedule and that helped ALOT also I feed them at the same time I put one on a pillow and the one that always throws up on my lap then burp one by one then change diapers together and of to bed that helped a lot but of course night time is when u wish u don’t have to get up that often but if u let them be on same schedule u will save half of the time and I always try to feed them before my daughter gets up for school so I can give her all my attention don’t worry u will be fine I know some times I feel like a feeding machine but they say it gets better as they grow up but I think the key to an easier life with twins is schedule good luck
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– I don’t remember the first 9 weeks of my twins life. You are NOT alone! It does get easier. I had family come 2 nights a week, Tuesday and Friday night. They would drive 3 hours to do those night feedings and what a difference it made. You do what you have to do! Again, not easy, but I couldn’t be more blessed to be a mother of twins! ∼ KS
– You are right in the trenches, mama – this is hard! Check in with your doctor if you think you might have Postpartum Depression. Even if you don’t, twins are a lot of work and it can get overwhelming. Do you have family who can help, or can you swing a night nurse for a while? It might be expensive, but think of it as an investment into a good routine and more solid sleep for you. If you’re breastfeeding maybe there are some tips to make tandem feeding easier. As far as the guilt, remember they only know life as being a twin and will get used to sharing you. Sometimes twins just have to cry. Physically you can’t meet every demand at the exact moment. Just stay calm and let them know you hear them and you will be there as soon as you can. Before you know it you’ll find your sea legs and it will get easier. ∼ PT
– The first year is the HARDEST. I was so sleep deprived and depressed that I barely remember any of it. It is normal, but you may have a touch of Postpartum Depression. I had it. I saw my doctor and she gave me medication. It helped, but it didn’t fix everything. Sleep deprivation is no joke. Soon they will sleep through the night and it will ease up. I was feeding every 3 hours AND pumping every 3 hours, so I barely slept. However, after a little while, I decided to stop pumping at night. The best decision we ever made was to alternate nights. One night he got up with them and I slept all night in a different room, and vice versa. Once this part is over it will seem like you blinked and they were 5. ∼ SB
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I only have the twins, so I can only imagine what you’re going through. Weeks 4-10 were just awful for me. My boys are almost 3 months now and things are starting to get better, but you are in the thick of it right now. One of mine was/is colicky (just starting to get better) and my husband and I are exhausted from constantly jumping through hoops to get him not to cry. Sleep is just starting to get better too… I can usually get a 3-4 hour stretch of sleep in (sometimes even five) for their first stretch of sleep. So don’t give up hope…you should be turning a corner soon.
– It’s OKAY. I literally have no memory of the first few months. I would call my husband crying telling him he had to get home *now*. It does get better. Deal with one baby at a time, crying does not hurt a baby. Get AWAY. Just for an hour, go to the mall, the library, anything. Just step away for a bit. ∼ KG
My di/di boys will be 2 weeks on Wednesday. My husband went back to work this past Saturday and works out of town and won’t be home for 2-3 weeks. I pretty much cried Saturday and Sunday because I was so tired. My husband helped out so much. I also have a 7yr old and a 5yr old so I can’t sleep during the day when the babies sleep. Friday and Saturday night one twin was up every hour to hour and a half and only ate 1/2oz at each feeding. I’m exclusively pumping for them so I’m up doing that too in the middle of the night. Last night was much better though. I feel like a new person today. I’m just taking it day by day, but yes I’m a little overwhelmed too. Which I probably will be until we get a routine down. I’m looking forward to my husband coming home ud83dude00
You’re def not alone.. I have a 15 month old and 11wk old twins, and my husband works full time as well as finishing his masters degree (1month left thankfully). Days are long and seem to be a blur! I thought we were moving out of survival mode for a week or so 9-10 weeks, but were back to an erratic schedule :(. I agree with pp tho: it’s already SO much better than the first 6 weeks! My twins still wake a ton at night, but have a pretty good daytime nap routine.. Def try to get them so that they can fall asleep on their own and have some sort of schedule.. Makes it much easier with other kids around!
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Help! Our twin boys are almost 3 weeks old. I’m feeling so miserable and having a hard time finding any joy in this experience. I’m just so exhausted and full of heavy guilt because I can’t stop wishing it was only one baby, so I could give them all my attention. Honestly, half the time I think we made a terrible mistake having any babies! It’s just too hard with two – it truly feels impossible. My husband and I are taking shifts through the night so we can get some sleep since the boys eat every 2 hours – sometimes even more often. Then it takes about 1.5 hours to feed/change/burp them both so there’s hardly any time after that. The hardest part is the night shift where I take care of them myself. It’s just impossible to feed them both at once. I’m so overwhelmed with twins. I don’t know if I’m starting to have postpartum depression or if it’s just normal to feel this way. Any thoughts are greatly appreciated.
But it is all worth it! But yes we need to let of steam sometimes!! Hahaa
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I’m so sorry u are having a hard time! I was going crazy with just my twins alone! I don’t have any other children so I don’t know how I would have handled that! I can only imagine how u feel right now. All I can say is to hang in there. My twins are 3 months old and within the last few weeks is when I started feeling sane again. Take up any help that is offered to u and don’t feel bad for asking for it. Mothers who have other children with twins are AMAZING to me.
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Your certainly not alone! Mine are 5 weeks weds and i have a 20 month old!!!!! Omg some days are horrendous!!! Atm they are a nightmare feels like they are getting worse not better! Still every 2-1/2 sometimes 3 hour feeds and there not feeding together and there sooo whingy and makes a funny straining grunting noise 24-7!!!!! 🙁 xx